What if the self care goal itself, is the obstacle to achieving it? We all know that self care should be a priority and when we make the time we realize the benefits but often we spend more time setting goals, beginning new programs and then allowing them to fall away.
How many times have we told ourselves, I will lose weight by this date, to later find ourselves filling up on cake (nothing wrong with cake!) ? Or making a commitment to practice yoga and binge watching tv instead?
Is it possible that the goal itself is a deterrent to lasting change and not just a lack of willpower? I am going to suggest something radical; goal setting itself is a deterrent to change when it comes to changing life long habits of being.
Please contemplate this and prove me wrong! What if we approached selfcare with no expectation of what it looks like? Instead we allow our minds to be empty of goals and just tune into our needs in the moment, letting go of all the guilt around what we should be doing.
How do we do this?
With radical love and compassion towards ourselves and a deep awareness of our needs.
We pause, we listen and then we act. This takes presence. We notice our thoughts, bring ourselves back to the breath and ask ourselves what are we needing right now?
Sometimes it’s cake or TV and sometimes it is yoga and meditation, it doesn’t really matter what it is. Just listening and giving ourselves permission to act on our life force energy may be just what leads our selfcare practice to where we think we want to be. Possibly we may even find ourselves in a completely different magical place, one we once thought impossible.